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Prioritizing Wellness: Making Yourself a Priority!

We’re just past a quarter of the way into 2016 and once again we are busy; busy working, busy playing, busy dreaming, busy achieving, basically we’re busy being busy.  Unfortunately, this isn’t unusual; in fact it is the “American Way,” so I guess I should be used to the constant pressure to do it all and to be everything to everyone. Well I’m sorry but I just can’t do that, I have to call a flag on the play….

How to Diffuse Conflict in a Relationship BEFORE it Goes Too Far

Although many wouldn’t admit it, I am willing to put out there that conflict is common in all relationships.  Marriage like any relationship isn’t always easy to navigate and as a result conflicts/disagreements will arise.  They say opposites attract; so when you take two individuals with different life experiences and backgrounds, pepper in colorful personalities, unique quirks, a side of mis-aligned expectations coupled with the pressures of daily survival, known as life, you have created a recipe for conflict. …

Tips and Tricks for Successful Holiday Road Trips

So the holidays are upon us, last minute shopping is taking place, plans are being finalized, ugly sweaters, Santa hats, and reindeer antlers are getting worn.  The holiday season is a lot of fun and it is also a costly endeavor, so looking for bargains, deals, and using general money savings strategies is always a priority.  Toward that end, many people will take to the roads this holiday season to avoid the hassle and cost of flying or other…

Combating Colorism: Love the Skin You’re In

Recently I had the privilege of spending the day conversing on a variety of topics with rising policy experts and political progressives, who also happen to be people of color.  One of the guest speakers and conversation leaders was from South Africa and she spoke with us about a variety of themes from the apartheid and post-apartheid era and the transition moving from one to the other.  An interesting conversation thread was about the “born free generation”, a generation born…

Why Can’t My Hair Be Real?

In the last 48 hours I have had separate conversations with four acquaintances, all white females (three at my workplace and one at my children’s school) about my hair.  Let me preface this post by saying I have 5-year old locs  and for the last few months have been getting more and more into the spirit of do-it-yourself (DIY) styling and experimentation (check out my Loc Style Library section to see what I am talking about).  In this particular…

It Ends Now: 4 Ways to Curb Bad Behavior

Our daughter is now a preschooler and we are experiencing a “phase” where frequently she is willfully not listening and occasionally acting out.  For example, she plays soccer after school and wanted to where a “pinny” (practice shirt) while they scrimmaged.  Unfortunately, before she could get the pinny a 4th grade boy grabbed the last one.  Instead of just keeping it moving and playing without a pinny, she kicks the boy out of frustration.   When I found this out,…

Run Fast! These 3 Types of Toxic People Must be Immediately Removed from Your Life

Most people want to feel close, both physically and emotionally connected to one another. But ironically, there is nothing more complicated and difficult than our relationships with others. While this might sound cold, and while relationships are vital for a full and happy life, there are some relationships, the toxic ones that are not worth the investment of time and effort. These should be quickly and permanently removed from our lives, thus making room for the ones that truly…

The Importance of Feedback: Why feedback is essential to a thriving workplace?

We all want feedback.  I want feedback from my bosses, those I supervise, and my peers so that I can improve.  Peers and friends seek me out for my feedback so they can improve.  And my children need feedback so they know how to behave.  In short, we all need frequent feedback.  Feedback from others is the fastest way to improve, it is how we learn and excel.  Feedback motivates us and helps us to make appropriate course corrections…

Practicing Positivity: Happiness is a Choice (A Short Tale)

Okay so I feel like I must be living under a cloud.  Within the last 24 hours I lost my wedding band, been treated like a secretary because of my gender, and now when I am headed to my first ever blogging conference (Blogalicious), it seems like the fates are against me.  The Story:  So I leave the house this morning still some what demoralized because I can’t find my ring, (thank god my husband has such a positive…

8 Ways to Find Happiness in Your Everyday Life

Happiness is a choice.  It is not just a way of being but rather it is a conscious choice and something you must commit to seeking every day.  Happiness is what life is all about; it is what makes the challenges, failures, stresses, and losses, bearable.  Happiness fills you up with goodness, inspires you to greatness, and heals all things.  Happiness is worthy of pursuing every day.  I am not saying you have to walk around all bubbles and…