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A Dozen Great Ways to Keep Your Relationship Fresh

As I reflect on my relationship (which I have been in now for over 16 years, more than a 1/3 of my life), I am so grateful for the fact that it doesn’t feel that long. In fact, the longer we’re in it, the better it gets. And as I take a step back to reflect, there are definitely some intentional things that we did that have kept us both happy, fulfilled, and feeling like the relationship is still fresh,…

5 Vacation Rules for Couples – Use Them If You Want to Have Fun Together

I have traveled alone for years…which I highly recommend you try to do at least once in life.) I’ve also traveled with friends, in groups, with family, and with my boyfriend (now husband) and each type of travel experience has its challenges and benefits.  However, the one that is often the most delicate is traveling with your spouse or significant other.

Many couples go into their travel plans with the best of intentions…but they find themselves in arguments, feeling tense…

Fellas: 9 First Date Tips that Will Make Sure You Get a Second Date

You’re on the first date and it is going well.  You know you are attracted to her and you want to impress her.  But, it’s hard to gauge how she is feeling about you. And so you’re trying to figure out how to finesse things into a second date.  Don’t worry…I’ve got you covered.

Men I am about to drop some insider dating gems on you that you should immediately add to page one of your dating playbook … you can…

Annoying Habits that Wives (and Husbands) Need to Let Go

In order to make married life truly “work”, it requires responsibility, dedication, communication, and compromise on both parts.  No one is saying marriage is always easy, it isn’t, but there are things that can help lighten the load.  And this includes letting go of annoying habits that, over time, can drive a wedge between you and your partner and can add unnecessary tension and friction.

Ladies, this one is for you, (and husbands you can let go of these habits…

10 Things I Learned About Marriage from Watching the Obamas

When I look at relationships that I aspire to resemble in my own marriage, I look no further than our President and First Lady. To me, the Obamas are the epitome of a healthy, loving, marriage.

As President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle conclude their last days in office, I want to thank them for being a wonderful example of marriage.  Here are ten lessons I learned about marriage from watching the Obamas:
1. R.E.S.P.E.C.T
The first and last rule of…

Have We Lost Our Sense Of Community: “Sunday Soul” Finds A Way Back

 

Do you know what love looks like? Not romantic love or self- love, but the kind of selfless love we show to one another as human beings. One of the greatest traditions in the African-American community is taking care of and looking out for one other. Kids growing up on the block would be looked after by family, friends, neighbors, and strangers alike, because there was a feeling that we were in this together and we needed to protect…

How to Diffuse Conflict in a Relationship BEFORE it Goes Too Far

Although many wouldn’t admit it, I am willing to put out there that conflict is common in all relationships.  Marriage like any relationship isn’t always easy to navigate and as a result conflicts/disagreements will arise.  They say opposites attract; so when you take two individuals with different life experiences and backgrounds, pepper in colorful personalities, unique quirks, a side of mis-aligned expectations coupled with the pressures of daily survival, known as life, you have created a recipe for conflict. …

I Love You but I Don’t Always Like You

*This post was inspired by conversations with some good friends, all of whom have been married for over 15 years.

I’ve said before how complicated love can be. Anyone who has ever been in love can understand what I mean when I say you can love someone even when you don’t always like them.  I know I’m not the only one who has ever been in a romantic relationship where (once you’ve left the honey-moon phase), the person on the…

Run Fast! These 3 Types of Toxic People Must be Immediately Removed from Your Life

Most people want to feel close, both physically and emotionally connected to one another. But ironically, there is nothing more complicated and difficult than our relationships with others. While this might sound cold, and while relationships are vital for a full and happy life, there are some relationships, the toxic ones that are not worth the investment of time and effort. These should be quickly and permanently removed from our lives, thus making room for the ones that truly…

When the Kids are Away, the Parents can Play!!!

It’s summertime, the weather is amazing, and there is so much to see and do.  The good news is, you’ve just dropped the kids off at summer camp, or with relatives and you are FREE.  Now what do you do?  If you’re like me your first reaction is to feel a combination of remorse, guilt, exhilaration, excitement, and temporary paralysis since you are overwhelmed with options.  Here are some great ideas of things you should do to make the…